​The ego anchors us with its fears, desires, and regrets. Neglecting our inner work strengthens the ego, making it harder to let go. This leads to second-guessing and clinging to negative experiences. Many of us have a difficult time with death and dying. Usually this is brought on by unresolved issues throughout our life. When we come to that transitional point many people suffer as they are dying and this is brought on by (as an example) regrets, unfinished business and disappointments. 

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Here is a story giving an example of the negative side of death and dying

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Barb, a hospice employee, had been taking care of a woman for about a year, a lady who was consumed by bitterness. From the very start, it was clear that she was unhappy, not just with life, but with everyone around her. She was always short-tempered, distant, and her sadness seemed to run deep. She had pushed her family away long ago, leaving her with no one to turn to except for the people who took care of her, like Barb.

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After that year, Barb left to take a new job in another state, but a year later, she found herself back in the same job. This time, the lady she once knew was bedridden. She hadn’t changed, she was still angry, still distant, and still pushing everyone away. She couldn’t feed herself, and Barb had to help her with every meal. The lady insisted, day after day, that she would start walking again, that she would get better. But deep down, Barb could sense that she was in denial. She was dying, but she couldn’t face it.

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One day, as Barb was feeding her, something strange happened. The lady was taking her time between each bite, so Barb had a moment to glance down. That's when she noticed something unusual. Imprints on the woman’s neck, as though fingers were pressing there. Barb knew then that something beyond the physical was happening.

The lady suddenly looked up at Barb, her eyes wide with fear, and shouted, "Get your hands off my neck!" But Barb wasn’t touching her. In that moment, Barb channeled what was going on, and the message came through clearly—angels were there, trying to help the woman let go. They were urging her to release her grip on life, but she was too afraid.

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This woman’s fear wasn’t just of dying, though. It was deeper, rooted in her conditioning and unresolved anger. She had spent her life trapped in bitterness, anger, and negativity, never confronting the emotions that had poisoned her heart. And now, she was terrified of facing judgment for the life she had lived. She couldn’t let go, even though her body was ready to.

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Barb could feel the presence of the angels, and she knew they were there to guide this woman to peace, to help her find release from the fear that had held her captive for so long. But the woman’s fear of death, and of what might come after, was too strong.​

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​Here is a story giving an example of the positive side of death and dying 

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Barb had the privilege of caring for many people through the hospice program, but there was one man who stood out to her, a man whose calmness and grace left a lasting impression. He was easygoing, always calm and peaceful, and whenever they spoke, he shared memories of a life well-lived. His stories were filled with joy, connection, and love for his family, who often visited him.

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He had been an active member of the community, always involved, and his family’s love was a testament to the bonds he had nurtured. Born in a different time, he shared with Barb how, during the crash of the early 1920s, he had learned to barter for essentials like blankets and eggs while working as a doctor. It was during those hard times that he discovered his calling as a humanitarian. His faith in God had guided him through life’s many challenges, and he spoke openly about how it helped him overcome obstacles.

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As he neared the end of his life, there was no fear in him, only peace. It was as if he had fully accepted his journey home. Barb could feel his serenity, not just in his words, but in his presence. Even as his body grew weaker, his spirit remained strong. When the time finally came, Barb was there, witnessing a transformation so quiet and profound that it felt like a sacred moment.

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It was as though he was already in a different place, somewhere far beyond pain and suffering. His passing was peaceful, just like the life he had led—filled with grace, acceptance, and a deep sense of faith.

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Lets break down the difference between both stories:

• Emotional State: The woman in Barb's first story is gripped by bitterness and fear, while the man in Barb's second story is calm, peaceful, and accepting.

• Family Connections: The woman had alienated her family, whereas the man maintained loving relationships with his family, who visited him regularly.

• Spiritual Acceptance: The woman’s unresolved anger and religious fears kept her from embracing death, while the man found solace in his faith and embraced the journey home without resistance.

• End-of-Life Experience: The woman’s experience is filled with tension and denial, while the man’s is peaceful and transformative.​

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In summary, the two stories contrast the experiences of a fearful, bitter end and a peaceful, accepting passing. While Barb’s first patient struggles with unresolved issues, Barb's second patient exemplifies a graceful acceptance of life’s final transition. So with these examples in mind the key is to work more toward overcoming the obstacles in our lives through compassion and forgiveness and even if it is to seek outside help to overcome the traumas that many deal with in their everyday life.  

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To ensure a peaceful transition, we must embrace a lighter existence. Continuously working on ourselves, addressing these wounds, and nurturing our spirit, aligns us with our true nature and prepares us for the journey home.

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